Let’s talk body positivity for a moment. Every day I’m subjected to body shaming remarks, customers exchanging “I don’t like it” remarks to one another, unwarranted opinions that deeply effect people. For me every day at work, I can vouch that skinny-shaming (or fat-shaming for that matter) is 100% an everyday occurrence. “Everything would look great on you, you’re small!” That’s not a compliment, that makes a person feel bad because they know they have a hard time finding things to fit too. No one has it “so easy” no matter the size.
Your breasts are too big, your breasts are too small, your hips are too big, you have no hips at all, you have a big bum, you have no bum at all, you’re too tall, you’re too short…
“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
― Steve Maraboli
I don’t ask for an opinion, I don’t appreciate fake compliments and do not ask for a compliment at all. I am dressing for me. The passive aggressive statements such as “I like those other jeans better you don’t look as big” I’m a size 6-8. These are my thighs, my hips, my bum. Why does it effect you which pair of jeans I’m wearing?
We should be free to dress for ourselves without the unwarranted remarks. I feel great in my clothing that I have styled, in one opinionated remark about a previous outfit makes me feel bad about myself and like most women, not likely to wear it again. When this happens I unknowingly dress based on this persons opinion when it’s clear we have completely opposite tastes.
At my place of work I choose not to give any opinion when a customer asks my opinion because I tend to disagree with my coworkers opinions. This is the nature of people. One says it’s too big, one says it’s too small. One says it washes you out, one says its a great colour on you. We are all different and our opinions will always be.
Go with your gut and dress in such a way that makes you happy. This is the shape of my body, this is who I am. Don’t tell me otherwise.