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Body Positivity

Let’s talk body positivity for a moment. Every day I’m subjected to body shaming remarks, customers exchanging “I don’t like it” remarks to one another, unwarranted opinions that deeply effect people. For me every day at work, I can vouch that skinny-shaming (or fat-shaming for that matter) is 100% an everyday occurrence. “Everything would look great on you, you’re small!” That’s not a compliment, that makes a person feel bad because they know they have a hard time finding things to fit too. No one has it “so easy” no matter the size.

Your breasts are too big, your breasts are too small, your hips are too big, you have no hips at all, you have a big bum, you have no bum at all, you’re too tall, you’re too short…

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
― Steve Maraboli

I don’t ask for an opinion, I don’t appreciate fake compliments and do not ask for a compliment at all. I am dressing for me. The passive aggressive statements such as “I like those other jeans better you don’t look as big” I’m a size 6-8. These are my thighs, my hips, my bum. Why does it effect you which pair of jeans I’m wearing?

We should be free to dress for ourselves without the unwarranted remarks. I feel great in my clothing that I have styled, in one opinionated remark about a previous outfit makes me feel bad about myself and like most women, not likely to wear it again. When this happens I unknowingly dress based on this persons opinion when it’s clear we have completely opposite tastes.

At my place of work I choose not to give any opinion when a customer asks my opinion because I tend to disagree with my coworkers opinions. This is the nature of people. One says it’s too big, one says it’s too small. One says it washes you out, one says its a great colour on you. We are all different and our opinions will always be.

Go with your gut and dress in such a way that makes you happy. This is the shape of my body, this is who I am. Don’t tell me otherwise.

January Challenge Reflection

Infinity ScarfWith my first month of my thrift challenge complete, I am already amazed at the results. I budget the rest of my life for essentials but it had not occurred to me that I should be budgeting my entire life including entertainment, not just bills. After mentioning the idea to a few friends and coworkers the general consensus was that I would be shocked when I started seeing the numbers. I try not to think about what I probably spent over the past year and instead focus on what I’ll be saving this year, and from now on.

I had no idea what to start my budget goal at, based on the Thrifty Threads Challenge, I knew $50 was probably too low for a weekly shopper. I set my goal at $80 with the expectation that I would gradually try to lower that amount. I was truly surprised that I just about met my goal save for $2. I was doing really well up until the last trip keeping my totals under $20 and its funny, now I feel like I splurged on the last one at $31. I know there were many occasions last year where I left with $50 worth of merchandise.

It was definitely an eye-opener seeing the amounts I was bringing in that wasn’t perfect. I now am very particular about what I decide to take home with me. I do not shrug when I see a stain or a seam open, I leave it behind. I am no longer willing to bend on damaged goods. I feel as though my closet has become more precious, the space in it only available to the items I really like. If it isn’t easily altered to fit I leave it behind.

I also developed a new outlook on my closet, frequent rotation is not a bad idea. I do tire of things very easily so consignment and donation are great ways I can keep a comfortable amount in my closet. People seem to think I just accumulate but in working in consignment, its pretty easy for me to recycle my unwanted clothing. Now there are plenty of times when my things are too worn, thus the issue a lot of the time with second hand clothing. But there are plenty of items I have bought because I felt attracted to them – only to realize that I liked them for someone, not necessarily me.

In tracking my sales of clothing at the store I was blown away to see the results at the end of the month. $239.25 in just clothing sales alone! I also have the benefit of selling my handcrafted earrings at the store which brought in another $128.25! For a grand total of $367.50! Talk about a great source of additional income or “cushion” as it were. In using only account money towards buying items from the store I am able to keep my paycheques strictly for my billing budget. Brilliant!